In this episode of Lunchtime in Rome, titled “The Quiet Place,” the guys pull up a seat at the table to discuss finding respite in an increasingly noisy world. From the science of silence to the “magical” clarity of a morning shower, the conversation explores how we can intentionally shut out distractions to simply “be”.
The Noise vs. The Stillness
The guys kick off the discussion by acknowledging the overwhelming amount of stimulus in modern life. With average daily screen time reaching nearly seven hours, the constant influx of information can lead to increased cortisol levels and anxiety.
They reflect on the stark difference between today and the 1990s, when waiting for a ride meant simply looking at a rock or a tree rather than a smartphone. To counter this modern “noise,” they highlight the profound benefits of silence:
Brain Growth: Just two hours of silence can stimulate new cell growth in the hippocampus, which is tied to memory and learning.
Regulated Stress: Regular quiet time reduces mental clutter and lowers stress hormones like cortisol.
Mental Clarity: Silence allows for “deep brain work” that isn’t possible when bombarded by outside stimuli.
Finding Your Personal Respite
The guys share their own unique ways of finding quiet, emphasizing that a “quiet place” is different from a “happy place”:
The Morning Routine: One of the guys shares his practice of watching the sunrise and sitting in a cold tub to “reset” before the day begins.
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Intentional Devotionals: Another finds peace in the early morning after the family has left, using that time for a devotional before diving into work.
The “Magical” Shower: They discuss how the shower often serves as a finite, soundproof space where the brain finally “disconnects” and allows for creative schemes and clear thoughts.
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Quiet Commutes: They challenge the habit of always having talk radio or podcasts on in the car, suggesting that even five minutes of silence during a commute can be a healthy “on-ramp” to better mental health.
Tips for Creating Your Own Quiet Place
If you are looking to build your own discipline of stillness, the guys offer these practical tips:
Environment Matters: Dedicated spots, like a specific cozy chair, can signal to your brain that it is time to unwind.
Expect Resistance: The first few weeks of silence may feel awkward or restless as your brain “detoxes” from constant stimulation.
Start Small: If five minutes feels too difficult, start with just one minute of intentional stillness.
Use Breathing: Simple exercises, like breathing in for four seconds and out for eight, can help ground you in the moment.
Nostalgia at the Table
The episode wraps up with a trip down memory lane as the guys discuss childhood staple foods they no longer eat. From “glop” (a pasta and ground beef mixture) and “Shawnee Special” to chipped ham sandwiches and the simple joy of a giant bowl of Cocoa Pebbles at midnight, the conversation highlights how even food can be a form of comfort and connection.
“Be still and know that I am God... When you have statements of fact, that’s God speaking to you. When you have questions, that’s your anxiety coming through.”
