In episode 306, the guys welcome back Abby Herr – Brian’s daughter – who first joined the table a few years ago as a precocious 10-year-old and now returns as a thoughtful, self-aware 14-year-old eighth grader. The conversation is warm, funny, and surprisingly deep for a teenager sitting between three grown men who love to talk.
The episode kicks off with the usual “how’s everybody doing?” chaos: Brian recounts an “acid-trip of a week” that included a canceled flight turned 6-hour drive to Long Island, an unforgettable lunch in a gold-and-marble basement with the mysterious “Chicken Man” and a room full of Middle Eastern businessmen, and the sudden, heartbreaking loss of Lex’s brother Jon. Jay shares about leading a police officer’s memorial service and the unexpected encouragement it brought to the officers in attendance. Eric just tries to keep up.
Then the spotlight turns to Abby. The guys ask how she’s changed in the three-plus years since her first appearance. Her answer? Morally and in her core values she’s the same, but she’s grown kinder, more understanding, and noticeably more focused on her faith. She credits a mix of youth group, good friends, and (whether she admits it or not) the influence of her parents – Brian’s confidence and Lex’s sweetness.
Highlights from the conversation with Abby:
She’s still very much herself – self-regulating, comfortable saying no, and unwilling to compromise who she is to fit in with a crowd.
Social life: marching band visual ensemble, the upcoming junior-high musical Matilda (she’s Amanda… who gets swung around by her pigtails), and a tight group of friends who make school bearable.
On Gen Alpha stereotypes: “People think because we’re the same age we all get along and like the same things – we don’t.”
Social media wisdom (at 14!): “My choices and emotions aren’t curated for other people.”
How she processes hurt and rejection: a flash of anger, a little guilt, then she moves on without bitterness.
Phone/social media stance: okay after elementary school, but heavily restricted until high school.
Favorite apps: TikTok #1, Snapchat #2.
Unlimited liquid from her fingers superpower: water, Dr Pepper, iced tea, gasoline (smart), and she’s still thinking about the fifth finger.
The episode closes on a tender note discussing how Abby is navigating the sudden loss of her uncle Jon – going quiet at first, then the weight hitting later, and finding comfort at a worship night with her youth group.
It’s a fun, heartfelt hour that reminds everyone at the table (and everyone listening) that even at 14, with the right foundation, you can be remarkably grounded, kind, and wise.
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See you next week for episode 307.
