Your Blind Spot | Episode 257

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 257 is titled “Your Blind Spot.”  What if there was something in your life that was sabotaging you?  What if it clouded many of the decisions that you make?  What if it became most destructive at the absolute worst times?   We'll be talking about that at The Table this evening.

Pull up a seat at the table and join us!

Today’s Topic

1.  Intro topic

   1. Revisit the intro, specifically when it comes to conflict

   2. Talk about what we think it might be

   3. “No one is to blame, however everyone is wrong”

2. 3 sides to every story - why is that true?

3. One of the main reasons is our Blind Spot

   1. That is the ramifications from unresolved hurts in our life

      1. Fear

      2. Anger

      3. Guilt

      4. Self Condemnation

      5. Each of these predispose us to see things differently than they are

   2. Characteristics of The Blind Spot

      1. It does not appear in the forefront of our minds

      2. It is a forced learned reality (reference the book)

      3. We not only perceive things through it but it changes how we actually think specifically about the conflict and ourselves in general

      4. It creates vulnerable positions that we take in conflict as we are seeing things NOT for what they truly are.

         1. We can act and make mistakes

         2. We can not act and miss opportunities

         3. We can sever ties with people/places that could be reconciled

   3. What to do about them

      1. Defensively 

         1. Just be aware that it exists and could be impacting you

         2. Ensure that you have a trusted loved one who can see what you cannot see

            1. Let them know that you will be seeking their opinion

            2. Trust their input as altruistic

            3. Thank them for their input

            4. HEAVILY consider their perspective

            5. Pray throughout

      2. Offensively 

         1. Seek what unhealed hurts are in your life

         2. Try to decipher the impact they’ve had in your ability to handle conflict

            1. Be specific as you can

            2. But also look at it in general

         3. Use tools to properly grieve and have comfort attached

            1. Therapeutic Letters

            2. Genograms

            3. Just sitting and being with someone who will listen in an emotionally responsive way