Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 205 entitled “Very Good Relationships - Open, Honest, and Vulnerable”
Tonight, at the table, we will continue to talk about how to take your relationship from good to very good. We will be discussing the 2nd component that all Very Good relationships have. What are the characteristics of good communication in relationships? What does poor communication look like and how can we fix it? We’re talking about that this evening.
Pull up a seat at the table and join us!
Tonight’s Podcast - The 2nd component of Very Good relationships
Intro - Review
Good to Very Good
Christ at the Center
Very Good Relationships have open, honest, and vulnerable communication
It is open and obvious
It is not clouded or discreet
It is not with anger or threats
It is not deceptive
It reveals how we are feeling and what we need
It is descriptive and clear (as possible)
It may even include describing how to meet that need - “Give legs to the need”
It must express a need…or hurt (that needs to be comforted)
It must be open and honest enough to risk being hurt if that need is not met
The opposite of this is
To deny needs our needs or hurts
To angrily lash out to express them
Selfish ways we do not communicate OHV and how to fix them
Selfishness—exalting our neediness
"I have needs and I'm going to take to have my needs met."
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.
Antidote = faith
Self-Reliance—denying our neediness
"I have no needs, but if I did, I'd take care of them myself."
You say . . . I do not need a thing. But you do not realize…
Antidote = humility
Self-Condemnation—denouncing our neediness
"I do have needs, but I feel bad that I do."
There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Antidote = gratitude