In this warm and laughter-filled episode, the guys welcome back the beloved Amy Rayman after a long hiatus (a “big minute,” as they call it) for a deep dive into the many seasons every marriage seems to pass through.
The table starts with lighthearted catching-up: gym routines, snow days vs. “FID days,” rental cars the size of roller skates, and the invention of Thanksgiving Street Corn (yes, it’s as amazing as it sounds—complete with mayo-sour cream dressing, fresh sage, thyme, shallots, Asiago, and a festive pop of pomegranate seeds).
After plenty of tangents (and a few technical difficulties), the conversation turns to the heart of the episode: the seasons of marriage.
The guys and Amy brainstorm an honest list that resonates with nearly everyone:
Honeymoon bliss
Ships passing in the night (busy schedules, kids, careers)
Power struggles & roommate vibes
Trauma seasons (loss, illness, crisis)
Young kids / “the darkness” of survival mode
Empty nest rediscovery
Caring for aging parents
Hitting your stride as a couple
Retirement (both the “we’re together 24/7” adjustment and the golden “we’re the same organism” years)
They emphasize that seasons themselves aren’t good or bad—what matters is facing them together so neither spouse ever feels alone. As one listener beautifully put it, marriage is a living organism; with good communication, humility, and commitment, couples can flourish through every change.
For fun, the guys asked Grok (X’s AI) for its comedic take on marriage stages. Highlights included the “oxytocin-high honeymoon,” the “dishwasher-loaded-like-a-raccoon-on-bath-salts” reality check, scheduled romance via Google Calendar, and the golden-years battle over who hid the TV remote or warmed the cold side of the bed first.
Through all the laughs, the core message shines: no matter the season—joyful, exhausting, heartbreaking, or mundane—the goal is to keep choosing each other, respecting each other’s systems (and pierogi traditions), and loving unconditionally.
If you’ve ever felt your marriage shift into a new season, this episode will make you laugh, nod, and maybe text your spouse from the couch: “You up?”
Listen to Episode 305 wherever you get podcasts, or watch the (mostly) live video on YouTube. And don’t forget to take the relational needs questionnaire at lunchtimeinrome.com—it’s a great tool for any season you’re in!
